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Powerful conclusions for dating and seduction

I’ve learnt a lot from reading Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand. I highly recommend it for everyone. It reinforced the way I feel about a lot of things, and explained things that I felt deeply but never really had the ability to explain.

Here are some of my favourite quotes and why they are relevant to sex, love and relationships.

Why you should never lie to the women in your life:

People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked. And if one gains the immediate purpose of the lie – the price one pays is the destruction of that which the gain was intended to serve. The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then on.



Why, if you’re a woman, you should never let others make you feel like a slut because you slept with a man you were attracted to:



Did I feel a physical desire for him? I did. Was I moved by the passion of my body? I was. Have I experienced the most violent form of sensual pleasure? I have. If this now makes me a disgraced woman in your eyes – let your estimate be your own concern. I will stand on mine.

Why you should never “settle” for a relationship that you or her are not truly happy in:



It’s your acceptance of this place that I want. What good would it do me, to have your physical presence without any meaning? That’s the kind of faked reality by which most people cheat themselves of their lives. I’m not capable of it.

Why sex with a high quality woman will always be more enjoyable and better than that which is less meaningful:

Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophies. But, in fact, a man’s sexual choice is the result and sum of his fundamental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you about his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selfishness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment – just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity! – an act which is not possible in self-abasement , only in self-exaltation, only in the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces him to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as his standard of value. He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience – or to fake – a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer – because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut.