study leave??

i wanna share this..
for any student who had stdy in univ especially, they will face the big and final staged of examination at the end of the semester..for me my study leave starts today..
what i'm gonna do by this week??
i would like to finish my revision and prepared well all the lesson that i hve learnt in class. plus, i would like to have discussions with my friend..
so, lately i'm busy to up date my blog hence, for all my friend out there ..the best of luck for you guys!!!!

you and i see

When your world falls apart
When your pain claims your heart
I'll be there, I'll be around
And I will never let you down

Leave that pain, don't give up
You will fly up high again
Count on me, we are together
We'll make it through this stormy weather

No matter what they say
No matter what they do
No matter what they think of you
You have got me and my heart too

No matter what they see
No matter what they feel
As long as you have got me
As long as You And I See

Take my hand and take my heart
We can never be apart, now and forever
I won't look back, we'll stay together
Trust in me and we'll fly, don't surrender!

Don't lose hope when you are in need
Have faith in Allah, have faith in Him
So please be tough and please be strong
With all His love you can't go wrong

exhibition day???

when u have a love scar...

now, i'm gonna to share this very unforgettable memories i ever had..it just happened after i have a big crush with someone three years ago.this story goes like this,Lets hear the fairy tale…..
begin…..
before, this one person was someonene in my life… it happened very tragically..hard to explain..( he had someone else@ a betrayer)
alright,..it happened on an event, he came to my house 4 visiting..i dont know really i felt for him..it is full of hatred and anger. i wanted revenge. that`s all….which leads me to do stupid behave although i didn`t meant to do so..like..humiliate him in front of my frens..then, he went back..and he sent me a msg..simple n short..i keep ignored him..it`s really cool..
a couple of months later, i started to think…….(.I humiliated him..as for record, a person who was really closed with me remind me about that, perhaps i'll faced some punishment then..i scared) thats why..i felt repent towards what i did….
so..i decided to seek for forgiveness….just forgiveness..that`s all…sincerely mmg i intend to ask an apology..but the feed back i got..he ignored my sms n calls..a.k.a he refused it embrassed me a lot..
for the sake of my life, i wont do this just because i felt guilty..i will not contact him back…
know wht,..kwe cant force people to accept us..maybe i am a disturbance for people who closed minded….i guest they know who they are???(hopefully)…..
i do make an apology. he still refuse mine..so, doesnt matter..
but wht can i say is , when we have a love scar, dont put the scar away but try to put remedy on it because remedy could be cured everything..just think about it!!!

lelaki selalu berbohong dan wanita sering menangis???

Jika kelemahan lelaki dan wanita diambil kira, pastilah kedua-duanya tidak hidup berpasangan. Namun, sudah menjadi fitrah serta tuntutan hidup bahawa lelaki dan wanita saling memerlukan. Justeru, wujudlah percintaan dan perkahwinan.

Perkahwinan yang sebenar serta bersih adalah antara lelaki dan wanita. Mustahil berlaku perkahwinan sesama lelaki atau sesama wanita. Hanya perkongsian hidup lelaki dan wanita saja yang menghasilkan zuriat untuk kelangsungan kewujudan manusia di dunia ini.

Satu perkara yang menarik mengenai perhubungan lelaki dan wanita dalam konteks suami-isteri, ialah lelaki selalu berbohong dan wanita sering menangis.

Mengapa hal sedemikian terjadi?

Menurut Pakar Runding & Kaunselor Profesional, Dr. Tajudin Ninggal, lelaki dan wanita memang selalu serta wajar berkomunikasi antara satu sama lain. Katanya, dalam berkomunikasi itu, ada beberapa perkara timbul.

“Wanita bimbangkan masa depan sehinggalah dia bergelar isteri. Sedangkan lelaki tidak pernah bimbangkan masa depan sehinggalah dia bergelar suami,” katanya.

Secara berseloroh, beliau berkata masalah wanita memang bermula daripada lelaki. Beliau menyebut beberapa perkataan dalam bahasa Inggeris yang mengandungi suku kata men, his dan guy yang berkaitan dengan masalah wanita. Sebagai contoh, menopause, mental illness dan menstrual pain, histerectomy dan guynaecologist.

Beliau turut menyatakan satu hakikat dalam ungkapan yang menarik, iaitu wanita berbohong agar lelaki berasa selesa. Sementara lelaki berbohong agar dirinya kelihatan baik.

“Lelaki berbohong untuk kebaikan dan mahu bergantung pada seseorang. Mereka mengambil alasan ini untuk menyelamatkan diri dan meredakan suasana,” jelas Dr. Tajudin.

Tambahnya, wanita menangis untuk menyelesaikan tiga perkara, iaitu membersihkan mata, mengeluarkan kimia stres dari tubuh dan sebagai tanda bersedih akibat perasaan yang amat tersayat. Perhubungan yang baik antara lelaki dan wanita amat wajar diwujudkan. Jika tidak, hilanglah seri kehidupan ini.

“Untuk mewujudkan perhubungan yang baik itu, lelaki dan wanita perlu berkomunikasi dalam dua bahasa, iaitu `bahasa lelaki’ dan `bahasa wanita’. Jika tidak, lelaki dan wanita akan terus saling menyalahkan,” tambah beliau.

Ada beberapa perkara yang diperlukan lelaki dan wanita. Yang menariknya, jumlah perkara tersebut sama banyak, iaitu kedua-dua lelaki dan wanita memerlukan enam perkara.

Lelaki memerlukan kepercayaan, persetujuan, penghargaan, kekaguman, keizinan dan galakan. Wanita pula memerlukan perhatian, persefahaman, hormat, kesetiaan, pengesahan dan keyakinan.

Terdapat beberapa perkara yang kerap dilakukan wanita yang boleh menyebabkan lelaki berbohong serta merenggangkan perhubungan lelaki-wanita sebagai suami-isteri, iaitu berleter dan bertanya soalan remeh.

“Lelaki memang tidak suka mendengar leteran dan soalan remeh. Semakin banyak dileteri dan ditanya, semakin dia tidak mempedulikan. Oleh kerana terus diasak dan bosan, dia pun berbohong untuk meredakan keadaan,” jelasnya.

Selain itu, lelaki akan menganggap dirinya telah memberikan kepuasan penuh jika wanita tidak bertanya untuk meminta bantuan. Bagaimanapun, meminta bantuan perlu dilakukan dengan wajar. Jangan berselindung atau seperti mendesak. Wanita perlu meminta dengan berterus-terang, ringkas dan menggunakan perkataan seperti `Boleh tak?’.

Seperkara lagi yang tidak boleh dinafikan ialah lelaki mampu menjadi penyelesai masalah. Ini kerana, otak lelaki berorientasikan penyelesaian, sedangkan otak wanita berorientasikan proses.

Tetapi jika “wanita yg selalu berbohong???…aper citer plak huhuuuu

Syurga isteri

Syurga Isteri di Telapak Kaki Suami



Kawan yg ini pula selalu membawa isterinya bersama apabila kursus. Suatu hari, tanpa angin atau ribut dia berkata, ”Ni yg saya suka bawa bini bersama ni. Dia layan kita macam raja.” Sememangnya pun, setiap kali dia cuma duduk. Si isteri sibuk melayan, mengambil makanan dan minuman. Berulang-alik mengambil untuk dua orang.



”Jangan amalkan,” jawab saya spontan. ”Nanti dia mati, awak susah.” Maksud saya, ditakdiran isteri mati dulu, sementara mendapat pengganti takkan nak makan nasi kedai. Anak2 bolehlah bertahan sebulan dua. Kalau jodoh seterusnya liat?



”Eh, dah memang kewajipan isteri, melayan suami.” Senyum kemenangan.



”No, no, no. Awak silap...” kata saya. “Awak dan dia ibarat pakaian, pelengkap antara satu sama lain.” 2:187



”Eh, banyak hadis cakap, isteri paling senang masuk syurga hanya dgn melayan suami. Kita kena ikut hadis.”



”Layan macam mana? Isteri juga penat. Cari duit lagi bantu suami.”



”Dia kena redha.”



”Redha dalam keterpaksaan? Kadang2 saya tak salahkan lelaki juga. Terlampau sayangkan suami hingga ada yg sanggup pikul tanggungjawab suami.”



”Isteri taat tempatnya disyurga. Ingat, syurga isteri di telapak kaki suami.” isteri pula menyampuk.



”Sapa kata?” saya mula sinis.



”Banyak kitab yg cakap. Hadis, sunnah. Kita kena ikut...”



42:21. Atau, adakah mereka mempunyai sekutu2 yg mensyariatkan untuk mereka sebagai agama, yg dgnnya Allah tidak mengizinkan?



”Kalau dah suami masuk neraka, isteri nak bergayut...” (saya dah dapat bayangkan seorang perempuan yg bergayut -- kerana nak masuk syurga -- di kaki suami yg dicampak ke neraka.)



”Jadi awak tak percaya ikut hadis dan sunnahla?”



”Bukan hadis macam ni, sorry, bro.”



”Tau tak, tak percaya dgn hadis, kesilapan besar? Berdosa!”



Kesilapan? Saya hampir tersedak menahan lucu.



”Tau. Tapi hadis yg adil dan logik...”



”Adillah tu kalau wanita dibuat dari tulang rusuk lelaki, dia mesti ikut cakap lelaki.”



”Kitab mana pulak yg cakap tentang tulang rusuk tu?”



”Alim ulama, ustaz.”



”Dalil?”



”Jangan persoal ketetapan Tuhan.”



”Now you are saying mereka itu tuhan? Kalau tak ada dalam Quran jangan percaya.”



4:87. Dan siapakah yg lebih benar hadisnya drp Allah?



7:185. Maka dgn hadis apakah yg mereka, sesudah ini, akan mempercayai?



”Masya-Allah...” mereka merenungku tajam sambil menggeleng-geleng kepala.



Sebelum peserta2 yg duduk semeja dgn kami terus jadi bisu, biarlah saya beredar.



”Excusez-moi.”

ayn-rand-on-sex-love-and-relationships

Powerful conclusions for dating and seduction

I’ve learnt a lot from reading Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand. I highly recommend it for everyone. It reinforced the way I feel about a lot of things, and explained things that I felt deeply but never really had the ability to explain.

Here are some of my favourite quotes and why they are relevant to sex, love and relationships.

Why you should never lie to the women in your life:

People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked. And if one gains the immediate purpose of the lie – the price one pays is the destruction of that which the gain was intended to serve. The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then on.



Why, if you’re a woman, you should never let others make you feel like a slut because you slept with a man you were attracted to:



Did I feel a physical desire for him? I did. Was I moved by the passion of my body? I was. Have I experienced the most violent form of sensual pleasure? I have. If this now makes me a disgraced woman in your eyes – let your estimate be your own concern. I will stand on mine.

Why you should never “settle” for a relationship that you or her are not truly happy in:



It’s your acceptance of this place that I want. What good would it do me, to have your physical presence without any meaning? That’s the kind of faked reality by which most people cheat themselves of their lives. I’m not capable of it.

Why sex with a high quality woman will always be more enjoyable and better than that which is less meaningful:

Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophies. But, in fact, a man’s sexual choice is the result and sum of his fundamental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you about his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selfishness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment – just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity! – an act which is not possible in self-abasement , only in self-exaltation, only in the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces him to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as his standard of value. He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience – or to fake – a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer – because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut.

Inspires others to be better!!

Shouting at someone is a bad way to modify behaviour

A natural by-product of being a dating coach and improving other people’s thoughts and behaviours for a living is that you learn to see which areas the other people in your lives – be they friends, family or lovers – can improve upon.

Focusing on your own self-development is great and ultimately what we’re all here for (and why you’re reading my blog). But it’s often forgotten though that we are partly a product of the influences around us and therefore, if we can make those influences as strong and healthy as possibly, we ourselves will become better.

There are two things that high value people do that are critical to establishing good relationships in their lives:

* Screen for similarly high value people. They don’t bring someone into their life unless they recognise some equivalent or higher level of value (even if that value is in a completely different area to them) in that person.
* Inspire those they bring into their lives to be even better and develop more value.

Screening is another topic and I will talk about that separately. Today I want to talk about inspiring those around you.

Pavlovian conditioning theory states that if we reward a behaviour in an organism, it is likely to be performed more often; if we punish it, it is likely to be performed less often. Reward and punishment are certainly useful tools in dating science and social dynamics, but the “carrot and stick” principle is often executed in too crude a manner.

Ineffectual lovers and businessmen do this every day when they chastise people by shouting at them, embarrass them in front of others, and have petty arguments. On the other hand, as rewards they may treat people to lavish dinners and bestow gifts upon them that don’t truly strike at the heart of the specific emotional efforts that a person has gone to in order to be better.

A more effective application of the reward and punishment principle is to understand why someone is behaving in a certain way, reinforce it subtly, and then help them to understand the framework behind what they are doing.

When it comes to reinforcement in particular, a specifically useful and healthy way to employ it in relationships is to use the “compliment sandwich,” in which you surround the criticism or negative feedback with praise or positive feedback.

Let’s take a common relationship example. Your girlfriend is always asking you to go to the opera with you even though you don’t enjoy it and have stated this to her on numerous occasions. A bad way of dealing with this would be to get angry and say, “Ok, well I really HATE the opera but I’ll come with you if you come to watch an action movie with me.” You still don’t want to go to the opera, but feeling that she doesn’t understand the discomfort it causes you, you reason that if there is some sort of punishment for her in watching a movie she doesn’t want to watch, it will balance out. You end up both being slightly resentful of it, but do it because you think that’s how relationships should be – but relationships should NEVER be about compromise (that’s another article).

The key to understanding the situation is realising that her current belief is that “The more time we spend together doing everything the better.” This is a commonly held belief but an unhealthy one for relationships. A healthier belief is, “Spending time together doing the things we both love and spending time separately each doing the things we enjoy will together, make our relationship stronger and more enduring.” So how can you help her to understand this without coming off as arrogant or difficult?

You could say, “Sweetie, I love spending time with you but I find it the most enjoyable when we’re both doing things we like. I think it’s so healthy that we both have our own interests and can spend time apart from each other doing the things we love. It’s what makes us work so well together, don’t you think? Why don’t you call your friends who love the opera and go with them, and I’ll go catch up with my boys tonight. But wear something sexy for me, because when you get home I may just have to ravage you.”

Notice the subtle positive reinforcements that surround the feedback to encourage her to change her current belief. Instead of saying, “You’re wrong and you’re making me angry,” you inspire her to be better with your wisdom, calmness and astute understanding of her emotions.

Here are some tips to inspire others around you to be better:

* Set a good example. Live your life the way you preach it. If you want others to be making themselves stronger, you should always be doing so. This is about being a man of high integrity.
* Praise the parts or behaviours in people that you like and are healthy. Tell your lover, “I love it when you’re affectionate like that,” if you enjoy when she is affectionate but she does it all too rarely.
* Distance yourself when you observe behaviour you don’t like or is unhealthy. There’s no need to always be coming down hard on people; simply pulling away normally suffices and sends a subtle but powerful message that this isn’t the way to be.
* Only give advice when they are ready. The temptation when you understand more about the world is to try to “fix” everyone around you, but not everyone is ready to be helped. When your friend or lover is ready, they will come to you. Information when someone is not ready is wasted information.
* Have a boundary that they cannot cross. Understand what behaviour you will not tolerate. If they cross it, let them know in a polite but firm way, “Baby, I understand why you’re in a bad mood. But it upsets me when you take it out on me, so please don’t do that, ok?”
* Be willing to walk away if they repeatedly cross the boundary. Your time is worth more than that and you know you can have people in your life that live up to your standards.

If you do all these things, you will notice that the people around you start living up to and exceeding your standards. As the people around you improve, they will realise that you are partly responsible for that and your value in their eyes will increase.

Remember, you are not at the centre of the universe: all these processes occur both ways. I don’t bring people into my life so that I can inspire them and feel like a hero. I do it because the friends and lovers I have inspire me too.

Not all of them will be conscious of the fact that they inspire me, but I will occasionally let them know that they do and that I am glad to learn from them. One of my all-time heroes, Dale Carnegie, says:

Every man is my superior in some way, and in that I learn of him.

I would add “woman” into that sentence, because a great lover is one that guides you and inspires you.

Dealing with the jelousy, envy and others

Today I’m going to talk about how to deal with bad emotions such as jealousy, envy, anger and low self-esteem. I’ll be focusing on the examples of jealously and envy, but you can use this process to deal with any bad emotion that you have to tussle with.



A lot of people berate the experience of these emotions and wish they didn’t have them. The fact is that emotions are evolutionary adaptations to help us survive and prosper in the world. It’s true that sometimes they can lead to bad choices, but these choices are ours to make. Most of the time, it’s not so much the emotion that is unhealthy but rather the action that we choose to engage in based on how we’re feeling.



Social conditioning further confuses the issue: whereas some emotions might stem from a real evolutionary or biological basis, others arise from the social influences around us.



Let’s take the emotion of jealousy, for example. Many of us have at one time or another had a casual “fuck buddy,” whom we were sleeping with but was free to sleep with other people herself. If you have at one time felt that you didn’t want her to sleep with other men (even though she was not your official and exclusive girlfriend) or you allowed her to but told her you didn’t want to hear the details, then you were experiencing jealousy – the fear of losing what you had to someone else.



Where does this emotion arise from? In evolutionary terms, the loss of a partner is only important if you’ve decided to mate with that person or are cohabiting with her. For most of us, this isn’t the case with a fuck buddy.



The emotion actually arises predominantly from social influences. The world conditions us to accept monogamous, exclusive relationships as the norm. Those of us who want to and are willing to challenge the norm might engage in non-exclusive relationships but we still get the residual emotion of jealousy – because deep down, we are still affected by those norms and emotionally subscribe to them.



Think about it. Everywhere around you, you see men getting jealous over women talking to or sleeping with other men: in the movies, in books, in your family and with your friends. You become accustomed to the idea that when one woman is sleeping with one man, she should not look at or talk to another man. Therefore, even if you logically challenge that norm, internally and emotionally you still feel jealous and accept that as “just the way you feel”.



Let’s examine the issue logically. If you’re casually dating a woman and she goes on a date with another man, it goes well and she goes home with him, you might feel a twinge of jealously.



Now on one logical level, you have every right to feel jealous because there is a chance she will be more attracted to this man than you and she will spend less time with you and more time with him.



That’s ok. But if you act on that jealousy by refusing to allow her to talk about the other man or by trying to prevent her from seeing other men, then what you are really doing is slapping a pair of handcuffs on her and saying, “I’m so worried that you might meet men of higher value than me that I am going to restrict your freedom to do so.”



If she meets a man who does have more value than you to her, wouldn’t you lose respect for her if she wasn’t attracted to him? It would indicate a willingness to settle in life for less than what she fully wants, which is an inherently unattractive quality.



When you get a good job with a company, if you’re offered a job with a better company a year later, wouldn’t you want to take it? If you didn’t take the better job and stayed with your current one out of loyalty, then ultimately you’d start to resent your job, causing yourself great unhappiness and probably performing worse in your job – an unhealthy outcome for both you and your employer.



It‘s the same in relationships. A woman shouldn’t stay with you because you have emotional handcuffs on her. She should stay with you because she continually assesses the market and determines your relationship to be of very high value to her.



If she meets a guy that gives her more value than you do, then fair play if she sleeps with him or spends time with him. If you let your jealously prevent her from doing so, then in the short-term you might have “safeguarded” some time with her, but in the long term she is going to realise there are stronger men out there and your relationship will eventually break down.



Therefore, the best way to deal with the jealous feeling is not to slap a pair of handcuffs on her by asking that she doesn’t date other people or even that she doesn’t tell you about it if she does, but by focusing your energies on being as strong a man as possible – so that she will want to be with you instead of any of the lesser men she may meet.



Here is the process for dealing with potentially unhealthy emotions like jealousy:



1. Try to understand the root cause of your emotion. Does it have a firm rational and logical basis or does it simply stem from social conditioning?
2. Consider the actions you can take to effect the best possible long-term outcome.
3. Challenge the unhealthy emotion by taking the healthiest action (the one that produces the best long-term outcome) every time you feel the emotion. The unhealthy emotion will dissipate after doing this a few times.



You can apply this process to other negative emotions as well. Let’s look at envy for example. When we see a fellow man, particularly if it is someone we are not socially aligned with, having more power than us, we feel envy: we want his power.



Because of social conditioning, we tend to look to others for how to behave, so we think to ourselves, “Right, I need to be better than him.” But strip away the social influence and you realise, “I need to set out to achieve higher goals for myself, regardless of what anyone else is doing.”



Considering the actions you could take, you could try to destroy some of this other man’s value. You could spread lies about him, injure him, steal his girlfriend, or just as bad, spend time actively criticising him to other people. In the short-term you might succeed in lowering his value, but ultimately all you’ve done is try to pull him down to your own lowly level.



You could, instead, focus your time and energy on bettering yourself and achieving your own power. It might take longer, but in time you will have greater power than you know what to do with; and all those who spent their time focusing on short-term, ineffective strategies like the above will be left trailing.



After doing this for a while, you would destroy the envious feelings that you once experienced and the only person you would compare yourself to is yourself.



So the next time you experience an emotional kick in your stomach that you think could be bad, think to yourself, “Why am I feeling this and how should I best act to produce an effective and sustainable long-term outcome

when love hurts

It doesn't seem possible, but it was four years ago when we met. He was so incredibly irritating. I was a four grader, he was a five grader, which, made me superior in the middle school food chain. He was this nerdy kid who played the clarinet, he wore glasses and his hair was a messy mop on top of his head. He liked silly things like talking about ninjas and other such nonsensical issues at lunch time. He would bug me during band, chasing me and such, like kids did in elementary school, but I felt I was above such juvenile activities. Nevertheless time passed and middle school gave way to high school and as a sophmore, I discovered that he was back again.
Over the previous year, Danny had gone from nerdy mid schooler to only slightly less nerdy high schooler. He still wore glasses but they were more sophisticated, his hair was still messy, but it was messy in a 'cool' just ran my hands through it sorta way. He was tall and had lost some of that baby fat that had still been hanging around. We were once again in band together and wound up in a class together as well.
Band competitions were a big deal for the band nerds. We marched and played until we dropped. Our director was a strict man and he would assign pushups for any reason you could give him. Sophmore year, we were performing Carmen, our hadn't made finals in years at state competition. It was cold and we were watching the other bands performing. I was shivering and Danny came up behind me and asked me if I wanted to share his blanket. I said thanks, so he sat behind me and let me use it and I leaned against him watching the bands. Somehow, without knowing it, I had crossed some invisible barrier between not letting him near me and liking him. As we watched, he held my hand and was very sweet. I was nervous, I hadn't ever had a boyfriend before and I was having some personal issues with my father that caused me to question things in my life, especially boys. He asked me to be his girlfriend that night.

I flat refused. I know, that was harsh, it was mean and I didn't mean it to be but I told him no. A week later at school, after we had sat together at lunch and walked to class together and ended up being assigned as lab partners, he asked me again.

I refused again. I was so scared of what that meant. I was naive to the world of relationships and with my home life being a mess, my self-esteem was beyond repair.

We started talking on the phone and another week went by before I told him, "Okay, let's go out." That was the beginning of what became a three year on again off again, between me and Danny.

when a guy receives a letter

Well, this is odd. But it fit’s the script. Irony I swear. Every guy gets a letter, and you were destined to be one of them.
"I remember when I first saw you, In Ms. aida’s. I though that you had to be an adult or a senior. Lordy! I don’t know how to write this to you, you aren’t like the others, and I cant treat you like the others, because you’ll never be like the others. You do something to me, you make me happy. You make me wonder. You make me cry. You make me inspired. You make me tired. You make me jealous. You make me hungry. You make me confused. you are so multi faceted! It amazes me. I hate feeling like this, at your mercy, but you stole a part of my heart, and won’t give it back. I cant function properly without it. I hate the most that I always think of you. Anything can remind me of you, something you said or did. . .It hurts though, real bad. I know that eventually I’ll get over you, but I almost don’t want to. I want to keep liking you, to have a reason to go to school, and look nice. A reason to be happy, and an excuse for taking the long way to class. I don’t know what you do to make me want to tell you everything, make me want to do your bidding, like a puppy. I hate that you have such a hold on me, that when I sit in that chair in my grandparents living room, I always see you twirling me around, as more than just a friend. I feel the scene of you throwing me against a locker in the hallway and surprising me with a fierce kiss. I know it’ll never happen, but all girls have dreams. . .right? I know a lot of people say I should just let you go, stop putting myself through such misery. But I’m an artist, Its what I do. So I’ll keep hearing my heart rip and tear, and I’ll never do anything about tit. Gawd, I’m sprung. I sit and listen to you over the announcements, you know, when you do them. I love your voice. Just hearing the emotion in it. Your voice conducts emotion like metal conducts electricity. Its dorky, I know, but I’m a dork, with a neon pink sign in my left window, right? Every time I look at you, I see something that stabs my heart, like your hand, and I imagine it coupled with mine, or brushing back flyaways, or wrapped around my waist. I may never get over you, but at least I can try. I just want a chance. TO kiss you, wake up beside you, ride rides with you, be held by you, Cheer you on at games, wink at you from across rooms, touch you, be with you. Is that so much to ask? I guess so. You have horrible handwriting. This is what I’m talking about. I just ran into my room, dug out a box of notes, and searched frantically for that one from malays I about Kimi. Just to see your handwriting. I don’t know what to do about me liking you, which is an inadequate word. Infatuation would be much better, really, not love though. Not love. I won’t let myself go that far. So I’m playing this mental game. I keep doing stuff to try not to like you, I say you’re ugly, you’re immature, You hurt Anis, you hurt me. But as soon as you smile, and your deep brown eyes scrunch up like that, it all melts away, and I fall for you all over again. And I fall hard. So. Now, I’m trying to fall for someone else. Anyone else. So I can try to get over you, with your effortless humour, position on the Varsity team, soft dark hair, dramatic talent, you seem so perfect . . . I can’t compete with perfect. I don’t know what our future holds, but its gonna be big. I cant wait. I bet you cant either. Ally.

This guy...

It seems that lately there’s a lot of encouragement for girls to ask guys out. It was in last month’s Glamour, and one of my issues of ym. Even my friend has been telling me lately that I should ask a guy out too. I mean why wait for them?! But honestly, I don’t think I can. I tried that once, and let’s just say it didn’t work out right. So after that, I’ve lost all thought of asking a guy out. Besides, it’s his job to come get me. Right? I mean I know this is the twenty-hundreds and everything, but, I still feel that I am, in a sense, a prize worth winning, and I think that if some guy wants me bad enough, he’ll take the leap and ask me out. And trust me, the chances of me saying no are slim. Not to say I’m desperate, just that I can find something positive in most guys. And, I’m not that picky in that area. I mean I don’t care about race or stuff like that He can wear glasses. He can have braces. So what if he’s gangly or a bit tubby? What I think is important is on the inside. However, that’s not the point. The point is that lately, I’ve come very close to asking this guy out. But I don’t know if he wants anything more than a platonic relationship. I mean I am the type of person who takes risks, but within boundaries. This guy I’ve been pondering, he’s tall and skinny, and he has braces. He has black hair and a red face. he’s athletic, terribly funny, smart, silly, and kind. And he has these quirky faces and this weird way he chews his gum. But I like him a lot. I mean, I’ve only known him for a month and a half, but I’ve been interested for about three weeks. But I can’t ask him out, as much as I wanna. It’s like my heart says , “Do it! Do it!”, my head keeps saying, “remember what happened last time?” and I cant muster up the strength. Because of this internal debate, or war more like, I can’t think properly, and I’m beginning to get headaches and I can’t focus in class, and I cant sleep at night and I keep thinking…

WHAT YOU NEED

Live by vibes to stay alive

Open mind to what’s inside

Some of us we try and hide

sun That deepest feeling from inside

How to live your life is up to you

Many will try & tell you, what is true?

Learn to follow that feeling inside

Trust the spirit guide

There’s many a man Gonna feel the pain

When the only concern is personal gain

We all gotta live for “What you need”

Not what you want “We call that greed”

blue eyeTis balance in all the final aim

Don’t get mixed up

Don’t play their games

If it’s needed step aside

Take time to think

Find your vibe Wise men say “You gonna pay”

If you no feeling for life today

So learn to trust that feeling inside

It’ll bring you Love You cannot hide

WHO ARE YOU..

It is far better, you will see

To die fighting for what you believe

As long as tis pure and just

& the harmony & truth in your heart, be just

Your death in justice is seen

By the future of the populace’s dream

The spirit of all be pure

All knowing, complete in all

The all of everything

The complete picture we need to learn to see

The for ever folding eternity

A flight from unknowing & unaware

To a place where all is laid bare

The truth of all so easy to see

The meaning of life pure and clear

The natural, connected spirituality

If you for go a feeling it is not all connected

You have much to learn about the natural way

The movement of the atoms & elements an their cosmic interplay

One is all & All is One

Wake to your spirit connected state

No separation in materialization wake

When flowing down the Tree of Life

The decent from the source, all of One

through the unfolding of creation

Materialization and physical realm

instead of the spiritual the Kether Crown

Up to you to wake to the calling

There no loud hailer or avert pulling you in

Calling you in in cause this a thing for the few

The journey is up to you to find, to understand

Find the harmony & clarity to see it through

Who are you

LIVE THE MOMENT

Live the moment

Seize the chance

There is only ever one shot

When your choosing what? Or what not?

If you are tuned to your natural being

A deeper view of life are you seeing

When you understand, no separation, no division

All is a manifestation of the One

In every conceivable being, creation untold

Behold Behold - wake up to your soul

Tis crying to get in touch

To remind you of the unjust

Back to understanding your feelings

Growing up from a mere material being

With more scope & understanding of another’s

Always indulged in the moment

Now not past or present

But the moment where it all takes place

The only true thing in all its grace

Hak Siapa

Janganlah kau angkuh melaungkan
si dia kepunyaanmu
atau kau kepunyaan si dia
kerana hakikatnya
kita tidak pernah memiliki sesiapa
walau sekeping hati seorang insan
tidakkah kau sedar
hukum alam menyatakan
menyintai tidak semestinya memiliki?

Manusia pandai berpura
berlakon di pentas dunia
dan bertopeng menutup rahsia
tetapi hati
tidak pernah berdusta pada empunya
tentang perasaan yang bergolak di dalamnya

Tidakkah kau sedar
mungkin si dia melafazkan
ungkapan cinta padamu
tetapi hati dan perasaannya
tidak pernah berniat begitu
dia hanya berselindung
di sebalik sejuta alasan

Dan kau
begitu jujur dan setia menyintainya
sehingga terlupa
hukum alam menyatakan
menyintai tidak bermakna memiliki...

Sesungguhnya...
"Aku tidak pernah memiliki dirimu...
dan kau jua tidak memiliki diriku."

Mengertilah..
kita sebenarnya kepunyaan
Yang Maha Esa
tiada sesiapa berhak memiliki diri kita
kecuali Dia
Dia mengasihi hambaNya
Dia memiliki hambaNya
Dan ke pangkuan Dia kita kembali

Bila Waktu Telah Berakhir (Opick)

bagaimana kau merasa bangga
akan dunia yg sementara
bagaimanakah bila semua hilang dan pergi
meninggalkan dirimu

bagaimanakah bila saatnya
waktu terhenti tak kau sadari
masikah ada jalan bagimu untuk kembali
mengulangkan masa lalu

dunia dipenuhi dengan hiasan
semua dan segala yg ada akan
kembali padaNya

bila waktu tlah memenggil
teman sejati hanyalah amal
bila waktu telah terhenti
teman sejati tingallah sepi

your LOve iS bLinD-Ramzi ft Ash king

I see you all the time
Never see you smile
I try to picture what's going on in your mind
He leaves you every night by yourself
He took your love and put it on a shelf
He doesn't really care... how you feel...
You should be moving on girl what's the deal?
I wanna see you out that door... cause girl you know you worth much more

So baby tell me why you stick around
Always lonely and you only wear a frown
He don't treat you good and you know
The only thing left is for you to go
You shouldn't live a lie with someone
When deep inside you know he ain't the one
I don't know what to say no more
I wanna see you out that door

Yah azizi (yo precious) is mahini (listen to me)
I really don't wanna see u cry
Mujko samjho dil peh mat lo (understand me don't take it to heart)
Don't wanna see another tear in your eye
Baby break away
Let him go
I don't know what he's done to you
But I know that it's time to move on
Girl your love is blind

Girl I understand
That you're scared
And you feel that you might never love again
But baby that ain't true
No no no
I know that there someone there for you
Someone that will see
That you are worth
An undiscovered treasure on this earth
Girl you know you're worth so much more
I wanna see you out that door

Yah azizi (yo precious) is mahini (listen to me)
I really don't wanna see u cry
Mujko samjho dil peh mat lo (understand me don't take it to heart)
Don't wanna see another tear in your eye
Baby break away
Let him go
I don't know what he's done to you
But I know it's time to move on
Girl your love is blind

Yah azizi (yo precious) is mahini (listen to me)
I really don't wanna see u cry
Mujko samjho dil peh mat lo (understand me don't take it to heart)
Don't wanna see another tear in your eye
Baby break away
Let him go
I don't know what he's done to you
But I know ït's tïme to move on

new sakha-Ibu

Sebening titisan embun pagi
Secerah sinarnya mentari
Bila ku tatap wajahmu ibu
Ada kehangatan di dalam hatiku

Air wudhuk s’lalu membasahimu
Ayat suci slalu dikumandangkan
Suara mu penuh keluh dan kesah
Berdoa untuk putera-puterinya

Oh ibuku engkaulah wanita
Yang ku cinta selama hidupku
Maafkan anakmu bila ada salah
Pengorbananmu tanpa balas jasa
[ Ibu lyric found on www.lirik.tv ]

Air wudhuk s’lalu membasahimu
Ayat suci slalu dikumandangkan
Suara mu penuh keluh dan kesah
Berdoa untuk putera-puterinya

Oh ibuku engkaulah wanita
Yang ku cinta selama hidupku
Maafkan anakmu bila ada salah
Pengorbananmu tanpa balas jasa

Ya Allah ampuni dosanya
Sayangilah seperti menyayangiku
Berilah ia kebahagiaan di dunia juga di akhirat

kembali Pulang

Lirik Lagu Kangen Band - Kembali Pulang

Bintang terlihat terang
Saat dirimu datang
Cinta yang dulu hilang
Kini kembali pulang

Lihatlah dia mulai bernyanyi
Coba merangkai mimpi
Cinta yang dulu pergi
Kini datang kembali

Wajahmu mengingatku
Dengan kekasihku dulu
Wajahmu mengingatkan
Dengan masa laluku

Reff:
Kekasih yang dulu hilang
Kini dia tlah kembali pulang
Akan ku bawa dia terbang
Damai bersama bintang

Kekasih yang dulu hilang
Kini dia tlah kembali pulang
Betapa senang ku dendangkan
Dan takkan ku lepaskan

Wajahmu mengingatkanku
Dengan kekasihku dulu
Wajahmu mengingatkanku
Dengan masa lalu ku

Back to Reff: 2x

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aPa Yang perGi biarLah Ia perGi

Satu petikan diubahsuai daripada buku 'Jangan Bersedih - Don't Be
Sad' tulisan 'Aidh b Abdullah terjemahan Mohd Sofwan Amrullah. Satu
perkongsian petikan untuk santapan nurani diri sendiri dan sahabat
sahabiah semua, hayatilah...



APA YANG SUDAH PERGI, BIARLAH IA PERGI



Mengingat-ingat masa lalu dan bersedih hati kerananya adalah satu
tindakan bodoh dan gila. Lebih daripada itu, ia boleh mematikan
kehendak dan membinasakan masa depan.

Bagi orang-orang yang waras, fail masa lalu itu sepatutnya
dilipat dan disimpan, bukan dibuka dan dipersoalkan. Ia perlu
ditutup buat selama-lamanya dan dikurung di dalam penjara kelupaan,
diikat dengan gari di dalam kurungan yang kuat hingga ia tidak dapat
keluar. Ianya perlu diperap sedemikian rupa supaya ia tidak terkena
cahaya, sebab ia adalah sesuatu yang sudah berlalu dan sudah
selesai. Maka ia tidak mungkin kembali dengan apa jua kesedihan,
tidak boleh diubah dan diperbaiki dengan apa juga kedukaan, tidak
dapat dihadirkan semula dengan apa juga kegelisahan, dan tidak akan
dapat dihidupkan semula dengan apa juga kebingungan - ia sesuatu
yang telah tiada.

Jangan biarkan hidupmu dihantui masa lalu, jangan biarkan dirimu
sentiasa dibayang-bayangi oleh sesuatu yang sudah berlalu.
Lepaskanlah dirimu dari pengaruh dan bayangan masa lampau. Adakah
anda mahu mengembalikan sungai kepada mata airnya, memulangkan
matahari kepada tempat terbitnya, mengembalikan kanak-kanak ke dalam
rahim ibunya dan airmata kepada mata? Sesungguhnya meratapi masa
lalu dan menangisinya akan membuatmu terbakar dengan apinya. Kembali
ke pangkuan masa lalu sama sahaja dengan meletakkan anda dalam
kemelut dan tragedi yang sangat dahsyat dan menakutkan.

Hidupkan sambil mengungkit-ungkit masa lalu bermakna menyia-
nyiakan masa sekarang, mengoyak-ngoyak perjuangan, dan memporak-
perandakan masa kini. Allah S.W.T sudah menceritakan tentang umat-
umat yang lampau dan apa yang sudah mereka lakukan. "Yang demikian
itu adalah satu umat yang sudah berlalu." Segala sesuatunya sudah
selesai bagi mereka. Tidak ada gunanya lagi menghurai dan
memanjangkan cerita perjalanan masa kerana ia sama sahaja dengan
memutar semula perjalanan sejarah.


Malangnya kita tidak mahu dan berusaha menangani masa kini
sebaliknya kita sibuk memikirkan masa lalu kita. Kita menyia-yiakan
istana-istana kita yang megah, sebaliknya kita pula sibuk
menguruskan reruntuhan bangunan lama. Sekiranya manusia dan jin
bekerjasama bertungkus-lumus untuk mengembalikan masa lalu itu,
nescaya mereka tidak akan berjaya, sebab pada dasarnya ia adalah
mustahil.

Sesungguhnya manusia tidak perlu menoleh atau berpaling belakang,
sebab hembusan angin sentiasa menghala ke depan, air mengalir pun
menuju ke depan, kafilah berjalan pun ke arah depan. Justeru,
janganlah cuba menetang arus dan aturan hidup, sunnah alam.